Week of 4/24/17

Good afternoon-

I hope everyone has had a chance to enjoy the beautiful sunshine and warm weather today.  It is certainly a signal that the end of the school year is coming quickly.

Adavanced Placement exams start at AHS on Monday and last for the next two weeks.  I wish all of the AHS students taking these exams the best!  

Monday also kicks off the last two full weeks of classes for the Class of 2017.  Exams are scheduled for the week of May 22.  The Senior Week exam schedule is attached here.  

On Friday, May 26 all members of the Class of 2017 will participate in our annual Community Service Day. They will start the day at AHS with a presentation from the Massachusetts Fallen Heroes Program at 8am.  From there students will spread out around town to give back to the community!

A reminder from the Ashland Police department.  Please do not park in the fire lanes when you come into the school.  Thank you.

News from AHS Student Council:
This Saturday, April 29th, the Ashland High School Student Council is running a Fundraiser at Barnes and Noble in Framingham.

Throughout the day, members of the Student Council will be reading their favorite children's books.  Please come join us (and bring your kids) for story-time!

There's a flyer attached with the schedule of which students will be reading what books.  It's also available online at https://sites.google.com/site/stucoashland/home

For any purchases made at Barnes and Noble with the attached voucher (on the flyer), the AHS Student Council will receive a percent of the proceeds.  The voucher is good at any Barnes and Noble on Saturday, April 29th and is also good online at bn.com (and is valid online from April 29th - May 4th.)

In addition to story-time, local author and AHS guidance counselor Jenn McMahon will be joining us at 11am to read from her newly published book Bohermore.  She will also sign copies and lead a discussion on the author's craft.

Finally, Barnes and Noble will have a display of various books that we are hoping to add to the high school's library collection.  These will be on display in the store, and we're hoping that a few generous patrons will purchase some of these books for our library.

Senior Families!

Want something special and personalized to celebrate graduation? The junior class is selling personalized AHS graduation yard signs made by Jostens! See the attachment! The signs are designed to be personalized with the senior's name and you may elect to add the college or future plan of the graduate. See the attached order form or pick one up in the office. Orders can be turned into the office until May 5th and the yard signs will arrive at the beginning of senior week. Any questions, email Christine Graham (cgraham@ashland.k12.ma.us) 

On Tuesday, May 2nd at 7 pm at the Ashland Public Library, the Decisions at Every Turn Coalition and the Friends of the Ashland Public Library present "College...Next Stop".  In the rush and flurry of the college search process little to no time is spent focusing on how parents will handle the move to college and how this milestone will impact everyone in the family.  "College... Next Stop" helps parents think about how to cope with their student’s growing maturity and the new relationship that lies ahead.  From their unique vantage points as Dean of Students and college parent, the speakers will share their perspectives and engage parents.

How will you handle late night phone calls/texts?  How often should you be in touch?  How do you “parent” without interfering? How do you enhance your knowledge of today’s college scene?

Check out more detail on the presenters and register online from the link in the attached bulletin.  We hope you'll consider attending "College...Next Stop" on May 2nd at 7 pm at the Ashland Public Library!

College...Next Stop bulletin.pdf

As we head into Prom & Graduation season I wanted to share this worthy read  I came across this week and ask the you mark your calendar to attend the Summer Send-Off on May 9 at 7pm in the AHS auditorium.  We will have some great raffle prizes for all that attend!!!!
-Free prom ticket
-Free senior week ticket
-VIP graduation seating
-VIP graduation parking
- and more!!!!

The evening will feature John Morello, actor and headlining comedian most known for creating the critically acclaimed one-man show "Dirt", will be performing for us at 7 pm on May 9th in the AHS auditorium. Dirt is a one-man show that explores the challenges and decisions that young people face every day. Dirt gets to the heart of issues related to drugs, bullying, and self esteem in a manner that resonates with audiences in a real and meaningful way.  Through the portrayal of relatable and memorable characters, John Morello gives voice to those who sometimes feel as though they are not heard and reassurance to those who sometimes feel as though they are not understood. John does not preach, teach, or lecture; instead, he takes students on a journey that challenges them to think about the choices they make and how those choices impact their own lives and the lives of those around them.  Prior to John's performance DA Marian Ryan and Ashland Chief of Police Craig Davis will speak about social host liability and other concerns related to prom and graduation season.  

WACA TV is conducting a Film and Acting Workshop for young teens between the ages of 13 and 15 this summer the week of July 31 to August 4. Please see the attached flyer for more information and the application!

Dear High-Schooler,

In its 7th year, Harvard's Youth Lead the Change program for high schoolers (rising 9th to 12th graders) will run for five days from August 21-25, 2017 and will be held on Harvard's campus. Youth Lead the Change is a leadership program led by a team of Harvard undergraduates that seeks to provide high school kids with tangible leadership skills and empower them to be leaders in their communities. The program features guest speakers who are foremost leaders in their fields as well as numerous projects and modules to hone strong leadership skills. More information about the program can be found at http://www.harvardylc.com/.

If you are interested, you can apply here! If you have previously attended a YLC conference and would like to become a Junior Counselor, please apply here.

The program costs $200 for the five days and this fee includes lunch every day as well as all other materials provided throughout the program. Financial aid is available and we are need blind in our application decisions.  The financial aid application can be found here. 

Please do not hesitate to reach out to me if you have any questions! I can be reached over email at jenny_liu@college.harvard.edu.

Please be sure to check out all of the other important events happening around town in the Parent Flyers!

Ashland Raises Healthy & Happy Kids:

Questions to get your kids talking about school

1. What made you smile today?
2. Can you tell me an example of kindness you saw/showed?
3. Was there an example of unkindness? How did you respond?
4. Does everyone have a friend at recess?
5. Did anyone do anything silly to make you laugh?
6. What did you do that was creative?
7. What is the most popular game at recess?
8. What was the best thing that happened today?
9. Did you help anyone today?
10. Did you tell anyone “thank you?”
11. Who did you sit with at lunch?
12. What made you laugh?
13. Did you learn something you didn’t understand?
14. Who inspired you today?
15. What was the peak and the pit of your day?
16. What was your least favorite part of the day?
17. Was anyone in your class absebt today?
18. What is something you heard that surprised you?
19. Who did you play with today?
20. Tell me something you know today that you didn’t know yesterday.
21. What is something that challenged you?
22. How did someone fill your bucket today? Whose bucket did you fill?
23. Did you like your lunch?
24. Rate your day on a scale from 1-10.
25. What questions did you ask at school today?
26. Tell us your top two things from the day.
27. What are you looking forward to tomorrow?
28. What are you reading?
29. What was the hardest rule to follow today?
30. If you could change one thing about your day, what would it be?
31. What made your teacher smile? What made her/him frown?What made you feel happy?
32. What made you feel proud today?
33. What do you hope to do before school is out for the year?
34. If you could switch seats with anyone in class, who would it be? And why?
35. If you switched places with your teacher tomorrow, what would you teach the class?

Week of 4/10/17- Happy April vacation!!!

Good afternoon and happy vacation!

I can't believe we are here already.  At the beginning of March it always seems like April vacation is so far away and then it is suddenly upon us.  From here the rest of the year flies by.  

As a reminder, grades for Term 3 are now posted in iParent/iStudent.


The AHS office will be closed next week.  I am heading off to chaperone the student trip to the Mediterranean. Please feel free to follow our adventures on the AHS MedCoast blog which is linked to the AHS homepage.  


A reminder that students taking Advanced Placement tests are expected to be in school for the entire day of their AP test.  If they have a morning test, they are expected to be in class after the test in the afternoon.  If they have an afternoon test, they are expected to attend school in the morning at the normal time.  There are no exceptions to this expectation.

Senior Parents: Once we return from vacation we will start sharing out information on graduation!  Seniors are done with classes on Friday, May 19th.  Their exams start the following week and Friday, May 26 is a mandatory class community service day.  
As you start to plan remember that graduation is open to all, there is no guest limit.  Class Day, on Friday, June 2 at 9:30am is another wonderful event and families are encouraged to attend!


On Saturday, April 29th, the Student Council will be running a fundraiser at the Framingham Barnes and Noble.  For any purchase made with a voucher (click link to get voucher) the Student Council will get a percent of the sale.  If you've been planning on purchasing a few books and can wait until April 29th, come join us there!

Throughout the day, starting at 9am, members of the Students Council will be hosting "story time" for younger children, reading some of their favorite childhood books.  (Go Dog Go, Corduroy, The Giving Tree, and many others....)    Come join us and bring your children to enjoy!

In addition, at 11am local author and AHS guidance counselor Jenn McMahon will be reading selections from her recently published book Bohermore.  She'll also be signing copies and leading a discussion on the author's craft.  (This is in addition to her book signing on Sunday, April 23rd.)

You can also order books through the Barnes and Noble website (bn.com) from April 29th through May 2nd using the voucher code, and the same percentage off the purchase will go to the AHS Student Council.

Senior Families!

Want something special and personalized to celebrate graduation? The junior class is selling personalized AHS graduation yard signs made by Jostens! The signs are designed to be personalized with the senior's name and you may elect to add the college or future plan of the graduate. See the attached order form or pick one up in the office. Orders can be turned into the office until May 5th and the yard signs will arrive at the beginning of senior week. Any questions, email Christine Graham (cgraham@ashland.k12.ma.us) 

The Sophomore Class of 2019 is currently running an online Dutch Mill plant bulb fundraiser. If you are interested, check out our link below where you can purchase the plant bulbs and they will be shipped right to your home! Feel free to share the link with anyone you think might be interested in purchasing plant bulbs and supporting the class of 2019. 

https://groups.dutchmillbulbs.com/shop/?affiliates=ahs2019

All bus registrations are due by May 1st.  The fee will increase to $350 for individuals and $700 for families after the May 1st deadline.  Students registering after May 1st may be placed on a wait list and assigned a seat if and when one becomes available.

Please contact Diane Goudy at dgoudy@ashland.k12.ma.us or 508-532-4005 if you have any questions.

Check out the Parent Flyers to see what is going on around town. 

Have a wonderful week!

Week of 4/3/17

Good afternoon-

Term 3 officially came to a close this week and grades will be available through iParent/iStudent on Wednesday, April 12 after 2pm.  

The bus company has asked me to remind parents and students that glass is prohibited from the school buses.  It would be greatly appreciated if you could remind your students that only non-glass containers are allowed.

The Sophomore Class of 2019 is selling plant bulbs to raise money for class events. The bulbs can be ordered online through the link below and will be shipped directly to your house. The plant bulbs can be shipped anywhere in the US so please share the link with family and friends to help support the sophomore class! 

https://groups.dutchmillbulbs.com/shop/?affiliates=ahs2019

Senior Families!

Want something special and personalized to celebrate graduation? The junior class is selling personalized AHS graduation yard signs made by Jostens! The signs are designed to be personalized with the senior's name and you may elect to add the college or future plan of the graduate. See the attached order form or pick one up in the office. Orders can be turned into the office until May 5th and the yard signs will arrive at the beginning of senior week. Any questions, email Christine Graham (cgraham@ashland.k12.ma.us) 

Check out the Parent Flyers to see what is going on around town.
Ashland Raise Healthy & Happy Kids:

AUTONOMY-SUPPORTIVE PARENTING VERSUS CONTROLLING PARENTING

The book discussed this week at the community book read was ‘The Gift of Failure’ by Jessica Lahey. It discusses how children NEED to fail in order to learn, and to gain confidence and competence. Being a supportive parent (versus a controlling one) can help them gain both confidence and competence.

• Controlling parents give lots of unsolicited advice and direction. Children see this as “nagging” and it interferes with their sense of autonomy and conveys a lack of faith in their competence to perform the task. Let them load the dishwasher the way they want to!
• Controlling parents offer extrinsic motivators in exchange for behaviors. Kids do not need to be paid for basic household chores that contribute to the household. Or for A’s on their report cards.
• Controlling parents provide solutions or the correct answer before the child has had a chance to really struggle with a problem. Give children time and silence to think through a challenging task. This shows that you value the process as much as the final result.
• Controlling parents don’t let children make their own decisions. Let your child choose the sports or activities they want to try, or the game for family game night.
• Autonomy-Supportive parents allow for mistakes and help children to understand the consequences of those mistakes. If we show our kids that mistakes are part of the process of learning, they will become more confident about their abilities and be better able to bounce back from future mistakes.
• Autonomy-Supportive parents value the mistakes as much as the successes.  Find the lessons in the failures. Help them discover new ways to cope and rebound from their mistakes.
• Autonomy-Supportive parents acknowledge children’s feelings of frustration and disappointment. Validate how they feel and even give an example of when you felt the same way.
• Autonomy-Supportive parents give feedback. Effective feedback guides kids toward seeing their mistakes rather than jumping in and fixing them.

Week of 3/27/17

Good afternoon-

As a reminder grades did not close today.  Because of the snow day we have extended the term until Wednesday, April 5, 2017.  Report cards will be available on April 12, 2017 in iParent/iStudent.

The Sophomore Ring Dance, scheduled for tonight, is still on!  The dance is from 7-10pm in the cafeteria.  All members of the Class of 2019 are encouraged to attend.  Admission is $10 at the door and class dues must also be paid.

State Student Advisory Council

Ashland High School is looking for students interested in running for the State Student Advisory Council for the 2017-2018 school year.  This group, made up of two students from every school in the Commonwealth, meets once a month to discuss issues related to education policy and the impacts on students.  Students interested in running should see Mr. Wiczer (in B251) by Wednesday, April 5th at 2pm.  Students will give speeches on Friday, April 7th and the voting will take place that day at lunch.  For more information on this group, please see: http://www.doe.mass.edu/sac/ or contact Mr. Wiczer at jwiczer@ashland.k12.ma.us

The Metrowest College and Career Fair will be Saturday morning from 9am - 12pm at Ashland High School.  The fair will begin at 9am with the Mark Altman from MindsetGo who will speak about "How to Differentiate Yourself From Your Peers".  The Speaker Series will continue all morning.  The College and Career Hall will open at 9:30.  This is a great opportunity to speak with Colleges, experts in the field, as well as over 50 Career Representatives. For more information please visit www.MWCCF.org. We hope to see you there!  

As a reminder, Supt. Adams book read has been moved to Monday, April 3 at 6:30 PM in the Ashland Public Library for a discussion on The Gift of Failure by Jessica Lahey.  Attached is the flyer for the program to this email.  

Please consider joining us for a very important presentation sponsored by ASHPAC, PTO, DAET, and Friends of the APL :

Power of Choice, featuring Judy Giovangelo, the Founder & President of Ben Speaks. Judy will share her story on Tuesday,April 4, 2017 at 7:00 PM in the Ashland High School Auditorium. Power of Choice is a workshop for parents, students, educators, and community discussing ways to build resiliency in adolescents.Judy will discuss the power of thought, gratitude, forgiveness, and affirmations, providing concrete tools to build self-esteem and emotional resiliency. She will talk about the challenges that adolescents face in society and share insight on embracing expressive and healing arts as alternatives to traditional therapy. Judy founded Ben Speaks after the loss of her son Ben to suicide and has turned personal tragedy into community purpose: building kinder communities and growing emotionally resilient youth. 

For additional information please see the program flyer.

STAND:  Marijuana Q&A.

In January 2017, the DAET Coalition hosted a STAND lunchtime activity at AHS. Students were asked to write anonymously on sticky notes their concerns, questions, ideas, and thoughts about how the new marijuana law would affect them.  Notes from 65 students were placed on a bulletin board that was displayed in the AHS library. The STAND Leadership team consolidated the questions and selected ten questions to be answered by community leaders inluding DAET Coalition leadership, the APS superintendent, the Town Manager, and the Police Chief. Click this link to see the questions and learn more.

The Ralph F. Brown Jr. Chapter of Blacks in Government is seeking participants for their first annual Communications Academy, Training In Communications program. The program offers youth in grades nine through twelve an 8-session program (1 to 2 hours per session) and we will host the program at Ashland High Schoo on Thursdays from 4:30-5:30pml!  (classroom to be determined).

Youth are educated on various public speaking and leadership topics. Topics may range from such subjects as how to speak effectively; the concept, purpose, and approaches to communication; the process of communication; leadership skills; writing and delivering speeches; use of audiovisual aids; effective listening; and so on. During the academy, students give presentations to practice their communication skills. The program would be followed by the Oratorical contest for those interested members. Please email Ms. St. Coeur to express interest as soon as possible.  

Please check out the Parent Flyers - there is a lot going on around town!

Ashland Raises Happy & Healthy Kids:
Tech Talk Tuesdays

Talking about social media apps, technology and how it affects you and your children at dinner on Tuesdays (along with your tacos!) was one of the recommendations in the documentary ‘Screenagers’. This can lead to some good discussions and you will likely learn a thing or two about your kids, their friends and the things “happening” on social media. Below are some more tips and facts about screen time.

• Playing video games can decrease sensitivity and empathy and desensitize kids to violence.
• Pro-social video games (in which characters help each other or work together to solve a problem) can increase helping behaviors in life. There are positives!
• Use of smartphones has led to a decrease in conversations and eye contact.
• Screen time can be addictive. Treatment centers are opening to help people “detox” from screens.
• Set limits on technology time.  The American Academy of Pediatrics guidelines recommend limiting the amount of total entertainment screen time for all children to less than one to two hours per day.
• Power-down for one hour before bed. Research shows that children fall asleep quicker and sleep better if they are off screens for one hour before bed. Choose a time for school nights (maybe a bit later on weekends) that phones/tablets/computers will be handed to parents to charge for the night. In my house, if phones are not on the kitchen counter by 7:45pm, they lose their phone for the next 24 hours.
• Make family meals tech free. This includes the parents! And includes meals at restaurants.
• Be a good role model. If you want your kids to stay off of media, then you have to do it too. Put down your phone and look at your children when they talk to you.
• Do not allow screens in children’s and teen’s bedrooms! Reduction in the amount of time sleeping and the quality of sleep (from hearing alerts, feeling the need to answer texts immediately) is one of the biggest health hazards from screen use.

Week of 3/20/17

Good afternoon & happy Friday- 

I keep hoping spring will be here soon....maybe next week?

Due to the snow days Term 3 has been extended by three days to Wednesday, April 5.  Report cards will now be issued on through iStudent/iParent on April 12.  

We have wrapped up our course selection process and are ready to begin scheduling for the 2017-2018 school year.  Please continue to reach out to classroom teachers and your child's guidance counselor if you have a question or concern.  

Next Wednesday, March 29th we are pleased to be able to share the documentary Screenagers with all students at AHS.  All students will see the movie during the school day and we hope you will take moment to review the attached flyer and join us for the evening screening on  Wednesday, March 29 at 6:30pm in the AHS auditorium.   There will be a conversation after the viewing of the film.  There is no cost for this event.

State Student Advisory Council

Ashland High School is looking for students interested in running for the State Student Advisory Council for the 2017-2018 school year.  This group, made up of two students from every school in the Commonwealth, meets once a month to discuss issues related to education policy and the impacts on students.  Students interested in running should see Mr. Wiczer (in B251) by Wednesday, April 5th at 2pm.  Students will give speeches on Friday, April 7th and the voting will take place that day at lunch.  For more information on this group, please see: http://www.doe.mass.edu/sac/ or contact Mr. Wiczer at jwiczer@ashland.k12.ma.us

The Sophomore Class Ring Dance is next Friday, March 31st from 7-10pm in the HS cafeteria. The theme is glow in the dark and it costs $10 to attend. Class dues must also be paid up to date ($10 each year). Tickets may be purchased this week at lunch or at the door. This is the first opportunity for students to pick up their class ring if they ordered one this past fall but all sophomores are welcome to attend! Contact Mrs. Kulik, ekulik@ashland.k12.ma.us, with any questions. 

The World Language Department would like to invite you to the view the art from this year's Spanish/French art project.  The paintings and QR codes will be going on display in library on March 30th from 5-6:30pm.  Download a QR reader on your phone so that you can listen to the audio guides!  I have attached a flyer for the event.  

The annual "MetroWest College and Career Fair" will be held on Saturday, April 1st from 9 am until noon here at AHS!  This is a rare local opportunity to visit with representatives from over 100 colleges; college placement, testing, and financial aid experts; and representatives from a wide spectrum of professional level careers.

Check out their website to learn exactly what colleges, presentations, and occupations will be represented by visiting http://www.mwccf.org/home.  Hover over the tab titled "Students & Parents" for an up-to-date listing.  Highlights of the speaker series include: "How to Differentiate Yourself From Your Peers", "Admissions Strategies and Test Prep for Students with Learning Differences", "Everything You Need To Know About the SAT and ACT", "College Admissions: The Insider's View", "Financial Aid 101", and "Finding the Right Fit".

The guidance staff at AHS would like to strongly encourage the participation of every family of an AHS student.  College and career fairs maximize your time and expense (there's no cost to participants).  Having all of these resources available to us right in our own back yard for free on a Saturday morning is an opportunity not to be missed!  There is much to learn in this format of condensed time and location, perhaps saving countless hours gathering this information separately from multiple sources. 

Join us in supporting the Ashland PTO and the Ashland Education Foundation, Inc. by attending this wonderful opportunity right here in Ashland!

As a reminder, Supt. Adams book read has been moved to Monday, April 3 at 6:30 PM in the Ashland Public Library for a discussion on The Gift of Failure by Jessica Lahey.  Attached is the flyer for the program to this email.  

The Ralph F. Brown Jr. Chapter of Blacks in Government is seeking participants for their first annual Communications Academy, Training In Communications program. The program offers youth in grades nine through twelve an 8-session program (1 to 2 hours per session) and we have an opportunity to host the program at Ashland High School!  Youth are educated on various public speaking and leadership topics. Topics may range from such subjects as how to speak effectively; the concept, purpose, and approaches to communication; the process of communication; leadership skills; writing and delivering speeches; use of audiovisual aids; effective listening; and so on. During the academy, students give presentations to practice their communication skills. The program would be followed by the Oratorical contest for those interested members. Please email Ms. St. Coeur to express interest as soon as possible.

Please check out the Parent Flyers - there is a lot going on around town!

A message from Mr. Grimes:

Fantastic Opportunity!!  - Ends March 31st

The Ashland High School Girls and Boys Soccer Teams have a chance to play an official Tri-Valley league match on the turf at Gillette Stadium during the fall season against Millis High School.  In order to participate in this exciting opportunity the players must collectively sell 500 tickets to the New England Revolution game on June 17 at 7:30 PM.

Tickets for the New England Revolution game are being sold at the discounted price of only $23 each.  The $23 ticket includes admission to both the New England Revolution game on June 17th and the Ashland High School games at Gillette Stadium this fall.  This is a great opportunity to support the Ashland High School teams today and encourage younger players toward getting involved in high school sports in the future.  We are inviting all Ashland students and their families to purchase tickets.

All tickets must be sold by the March 31st!  To order your tickets by email; contact Bill Ames at bill.ames34@gmail.com.  Only checks made payable to the Clocker Club will be accepted for tickets.  To ask questions or order tickets, please contact Bill Ames.     

We need your help to make sure we sell all of the tickets!  You can support Ashland High School Soccer and come to Gillette to cheer on our high school teams!

Recognizing and helping those who self-injure

Many people think children and adolescents engage in self harm to get attention from adults or fit in with peers but that is usually not the case. The behavior is actually a coping strategy used to control emotions. They’re trying to reduce a negative emotional state, and then as they’re self-injuring, it produces a positive emotional state – they get sort of a rush or a high from the self-injury. Others self injure to simply feel something, and some might hurt themselves as a form of punishment.

Self injurious behaviors include cutting, scratching, opening or picking at wounds, burning, biting, hitting and pulling out hair. Kids often try to hide their behaviors often saying a cat or branch scratched them and wearing long clothes in hot weather.

If you think your child is engaging in self injurious behaviors, below are some tips:

• Ask in a very straightforward manner whether or not they’re injuring themselves, and state why you are concerned.

• Be willing to talk. Tell your child, “I want you to know that I love you, and if these are self-inflicted wounds, I’m here to help you. I’m not here to be angry at you. I’m not here to punish you. I’m here for you to talk to me.”

• Share your feelings. It’s ok to acknowledge this is something beyond what you as a parent know how to manage.

• Do not tell your child that he/she must stop the behavior. That signals to the child she/he is misbehaving. This is not a bad behavior, it’s an unhealthy behavior. And if you tell your child to stop before they have a chance to develop a healthier way to cope with emotions, it can be disastrous. It’s like someone who has a broken leg and is using crutches. You wouldn’t want to take their crutches away before they are ready.

• Do not ignore your child. Some see self-harm as kids just wanting attention. If they need attention that badly, give it to them.

• Do not focus on the self-injurious behavior. Concentrate on what’s driving the behavior, not the behavior itself.

Kids don’t need to be hospitalized for self-injury unless they are suicidal or the self-injury is so severe it places them in medical danger. While kids who self-injure have a higher risk of suicide at the time of self-injury, their motive is to cope – not take their life.

The first step in seeking help is to get an evaluation from a licensed professional. Therapy and/or medication could be recommended, treatments vary by case. The good news is, if it’s recognized and they  get help, children can get over this and get better.